There are people in my life who I simply cannot live without. I can’t imagine how I would have survived these first years of motherhood without them. Every mom needs friends in her life, especially new moms (read more about that here). If you haven’t found a friend like this yet, get out there right now and make it happen. They are absolutely necessary for survival. No, I’m not kidding.
The Organizer Friend
She’s the woman you want when it’s time to plan. Want to go pumpkin picking? She’s already scoped out the best locations and has them listed both alphabetically and by proximity. Want to schedule a mom’s night out? She will get the date, time and location nailed down before you have even finished typing the words, “thanks for organizing.” If you are too tired or overwhelmed to plan, have no fear. She’s got you covered. She thrives on planning and won’t even mind if you never take the lead on organizing the next play date.
The “Down for Whatever” Friend
It may be snowing, but you have got to get out of the house. If your other friends are relaxing at home and baking cookies, you better call this woman. No matter what the weather, she will gear up and meet you anywhere. She will try that new restaurant, kids play space or hair salon no matter what. You just have to tell her what time and where. She is absolutely your lifeline to the outside world. Without her, you might stay home more often than you should. She’s bold and adventurous and values spending time with you no matter where it is.
The Laid Back Friend
She helps to bring your life into perspective. No, that rash on your child’s foot isn’t a death sentence. She cares for her kids effortlessly and never seems stressed or ruffled. When you are panicking, she is calm. When you are worrying, she has words of assurance. For us “Type-A” mamas, she is the calm to our crazy! So when you are freaking out about lunch menus and supply list, this mama will make sure you know that everything will be okay. You will always believe her.
The Friend With Older Kids
She’s been through it so she’s got a certain wisdom. She, like the laid back mama doesn’t get ruffled by the minutia. She listens carefully to your concerns but never judges you for your unfounded worries because she has been there. She’s happy to give advice and show you the ropes, but never makes you feel foolish for asking a million questions. On top of all this, she’s got insider information about the crazy people on the PTA and whether or not you should volunteer for events at school.
The Kid-Free Friend
Possibly the most overlooked friend is the friend without kids. When you spend some time with her, she forces you (in a good way) to discuss other topics outside of motherhood. She’s always flexible with scheduling even when you’re asking to meet at 9 a.m. on a Saturday morning. She adores your kids and always asks to see recent photos. You enjoy living vicariously through her as she chats about her travel adventures and free time. She is always a breath of fresh air.
If you are looking for one of these friends in your life, you just might find that one of these mamas is you! If so, continue to shine that beautiful light of friendship on others. You’re doing a great job.
I would love to hear your favorite types of essential friends. Which ones did I miss?