When the new year arrives, we find ourselves making lists of resolutions for ourselves. We all know how difficult parenting can be. While we are always trying to be our best parenting selves, sometimes life gets a little crazy and we don’t quite make it. This year, I thought I would do some work in the parenting department. If I am trying to become the best version of myself, there’s no better place to start than the example I am setting for my kiddo. Here are my parenting resolutions for 2019
While I always try to feed my family the healthiest meals possible, last month was not my best. I’m not gonna lie. There was a LOT of pizza and mac and cheese dinners. As a parent to a former picky eater (see the post on that here), I know how important is it to stay consistent with meal planning. With three jobs and entertaining just about every weekend from Thanksgiving to New Year’s, I definitely slacked. When I don’t eat healthy, neither does my family. Healthy eating has to be one of my resolutions because it affects my entire family. I realized that I have to set the standard when it comes to making healthy choices. Even if I am not perfect, my goal is to get some healthy meals on the table at least 75% of the time.
Saying No to Saying No
If you are a mom, you know that the word “no” tends to roll off your tongue fairly easily. No, you cannot have cool ship for breakfast. No, you cannot cut your brother’s hair. Now I am not suggesting that we give in to everything, but I am suggesting a little spin on the language. When my daughter asks me for a chocolate lollipop at 6:45 am, I say yes…after dinner. I have recently implemented this and it’s very disarming. Your kid wants some more screen time after the limit is reached? You can say, “absolutely tomorrow!” It’s all in the approach. My goal is to save the “no” for when I really need it.
Focus on the Positive
I’m not gonna lie. The holidays were pretty rough as far as discipline is concerned. With the whole family running on Christmas cookies and less sleep than usual, we were all a bit cranky. I found that my patience ran thin and by default, my focus was on penalizing my daughter for non-cooperative behaviors. I know that positive parenting works better. When ever I take the time to ensure that I setup those parameters, everything runs much more smoothly. I did a post on chore charts this year and using them really worked well. This year, I want to refocus on making sure the positive behaviors are acknowledged instead of the other way around.
While I hate screen time for my kid, I found that my screen time has gone largely unchecked. Becoming a screen junkie just makes me a big old hypocrite. I can’t have that. Yes, I do use my phone for lots of work-related things, but there are definitely moments when I am just scrolling away. This year I want to spend more time interacting with my daughter. I want to spend more time reading, playing games and snuggling. Anything that is on social media will be there when I need it.
As an educator, I am always excited to read and share new books (see my post on my favorite books for moms here.) This year, I plan to get my daughter even more involved in the fun of reading. If I intend to raise a lifelong reader, I have to keep working at it. Spending more afternoons just reading books, looking for new titles at the library and developing good habits are at the top of my list for this year.
Even if you don’t have a list of resolutions, you can always reflect on ways to improve and be your best self. Any effort, no matter how small, goes unnoticed by our little ones. Happy New Year!
Mom, wife, educator, and loyal friend. Passionate about all things reading and writing. Sharing parenting tips with an educator’s lens.